Situational Value

It still astounds me the power that situational value has and how even I can go back and forth between the two spectrums. Some guys claim to have such solid inner game that it doesn't matter to them and there massive internal value will shine through but I've never truly seen this to be the case. What I have noticed is that we influence our enviornment and in turn our enviornment influences us.

Now we DO have complete control of our internal state and can learn things such as being in the moment, being unreactive, staying positive, and having indifference. It's hard but possible. However we only have limited control over our external value since it's largely controlled by five factors, only one of which being our internal state. Situation, social value, momentum theory, social role, and our state/energy.

Each of these five factors have influence on your situational value and there are 4 steps you can take when you're on the negative side of the spectrum so you don't have a horrible night. When you find yourself on the negative side, with low situational value due to some, or all, of the five factors being negative, here's the 4 steps you can take.

1. Use game to quickly turn as many of the negative 5 factors into positive factors.

2. When you can't change enough, or any factors, become unreactive to them until it might change naturally.

3. Leave the situation

4. Accept the situation

With step one recognize and avoid bad situations, gain social proof and preselection for social value, try and start off everything postive so that the momentum is in the right direction or kill negative momentum early, build a high value social role for yourself with people, and keep a fun postive energy. Keeping these things in check is something you should do from the start, however at times it can be outside your control.

What if you're forced in a bad situation? What if you can't build social value for yourself right now? What if your neck deep already in negative momentum and it feels impossible to turn around? What if you're force framed into a certain social role you don't like? Or what if you just feel down and out of state?

Well step two is try and remain unreactive until something changes. You basically tried to influence the enviornment first but that didn't work...now maybe the enviornment will influence itself and things will turn around. If time has gone by and things still aren't going well then it's time to leave. Go check out another club or find a second option for yourself. This is what I've seen the best guys do, they will make sure they are never in a bad situation for themselves and if they are in one they will attempt to change it around by focusing on the five factors. After that they simply leave and make a new and better situation. If you really can't leave for some reason then just accept it and observe. Detatch yourself from it all and accept the night or situation sucks and simply observe it.

On a very broad scale these factors are what game is all about! Knowing how to create social value is the outer game and your state/energy is the inner game. After this it's just about choosing the right situations for yourself (unless pushing your comfort zone which helps you handle different situations), starting off strong and respecting momentum theory, and managing high value social roles (btw your social role is built through time so the more you know someone the more solid your social role becomes).

-Jarett aka Psych