Direct Confidence

Ok guys the first thing I noticed about all of game is that it all starts with how you feel on the inside. The key thing here being CONFIDENCE!

So what was the very first challenge for myself to become a true MPUA? 10 sets, during the day, on my college campus, going fully direct. Nothing short of that would push me to being the confident guy I know I could be.

Many guys advocate doing silly things like opening a set by doing push ups in front of them. This is good for building confidence it's true however you're able to hide behind the social mask of doing something silly. With direct opening you go in sincere and putting it all on the line....to me this is much scarier.

Here's what I said verbatim.

"Hey excuse me didn't mean to bother you but I'm kind of in a hurry since I'm late for my class. I just wanted to tell you something otherwise I'd be kicking myself all day. You are absolutely gorgeous and have this interesting look that I don't see here that often. (Introduce myself and get her name). What would be the best way to stay in touch with you?"

Now I went out onto my campus with the exact words written down on a little cheat sheet and I'm not going to lie...I was pretty scared. I was seeing reasons not to approach for every set and making excuses left and right. This was EXACTLY the type of fear that would get in my way if I saw my dream girl and wanted to approach immediately.

However after every set that walked by or that I passed up I became more and more angry with myself. Fear turned into cold resolve, and like a wriggling mass of jello, I walked up to my very first set and delivered the line. What happened?....

She looked scared as hell. The poor girl looked like she wanted to run away and her friend came and saved her. I noticed something though...I had instant state. Every single fear I had before was completely gone, better then that, I felt amazing! I go for set number 2 and again I get that fear response but I push past it and end up getting her facebook and an invite to a concert she does.

From then on every set I open becomes better then the last. I say the exact same line but now from a place of pure happiness and confidence. I go in relaxed and warm as opposed to my old jello ways. Next thing I know I'm having women blushing and giggiling giving me their number, one offers to be my spanish tutor, another asks me if I know any good parties this week.

The point of this challenge wasn't to master direct game, it was to develop confidence. However I seriously like direct game during the day now, it either has them run off and you dont waste your time or else it's instantly on within the first minute!

So final result? 10 sets, 2 nothing, 2 myspace/facebook, 7 phone numbers (one girl gave me her number and myspace)!

Gonna start challenge 2 tomorrow.